Two weeks ago, I met my new friend, sales guru and best selling author, Jill Konrath, at the San Francisco airport and Ubered to my place. Before long, we were craving some goodies so decided to hop in my car and head to the nearest grocery store. The next thing I knew, I ran over her foot! Nice work huh? Running over your mentor’s foot? Then I wrote this article about it.
When I returned home after a long trip, I unplugged the car charger from the wall, turned the ignition key and promptly ran over Jill Konrath’s right foot.
As she jumped up and down, clutching her just-crushed extremity, Jill tried to reassure me that she was okay. We even tried to laugh it off, “…let’s call a toe truck…” or “maybe you’re lack-toes intolerant.”
Then, Jill and I realized that our weekend, like many sales calls, got off on the wrong foot. While she quickly recovered, many sales calls don’t.
Here are three strategies to regain lost trust if you’ve made a major blunder at the beginning of your relationship.
1. Admit Your Missteps
Once in the yard, icing her bruised foot, Jill remarked, “Unbelievable. When you turned on the key, the car jumped forward—on its own. You need to get rid of it; it’s got to be haunted.”
The case for blaming the car (not me!) was compelling—and I quickly agreed.
It’s always tempting to blame other people or external circumstances for our missteps, but when you do this, you fail to grow. To catch yourself in the act of blaming, think about if you start a sentence with the words “He,” “She,” or “They.” The very use of these words suggests that someone else is in control. As soon as you say “I,” you’ve taken back control for your failures—and your successes.
2. Put the Shoe on the Other Foot
If you’ve screwed something up at the beginning, it’s imperative to think about how the other person is feeling at the moment. Having empathy with your upset customer or prospect is essential.
Listen to what this person is saying and the emotions behind the words. You may or may not be able to make things better, but you can start to mend the relationship. This may sound counterintuitive, but it’s often more important to validate a person’s feelings about the issue than it is to fix things.
Check out this video. It’s a great (and hilarious) example. Watch below.
3. Don’t Get De-Feeted
Remember the scene in Willy Wonka where the spoiled Veruca Salt says to her daddy, “I want an Oompa Loompa now!” We’re all like that; we want our problems to be fixed immediately.
But when a relationship starts badly, there’s no quick fix. While trust begins with empathy, you must combine it with reliability, competency, and integrity.
To demonstrate your real value:
- Empower customers to be part of the solution—ask what they’d like you to do to make them whole again.
- Keep promises that you make but, just as importantly, be judicious not to make too many.
- If you can’t fulfill a promise, proactively create new agreements, then make sure to follow through.
Regaining and building trust takes time and creativity. Keep driving forward—just look at who’s in front and behind you before you accelerate.
Hi shari, its me barry myatt, i drew cartoons at train the trainer in az. Years ago Hope you remember me..i wanted to ask you a question if thats ok.
Sure Barry. You can contact me here.